I am a stay at home mom of three kids on a daily basis, Every other weekend I have five kids. I love all five of them with all of my heart. I do have to admit that sometimes it can be more than I can handle. Somehow I still manage to make it happen. They all love me for the most part, though sometimes I think they don’t like me much. It’s okay though because sometimes I don't like me much either.
Sometimes as a parent things happen to our kids that we can’t control. I had someone that i had considered a friend and something was going on with her child and her child was showing my child. It got to the point where I didn't allow her kids near my kids. Then there was the problem of her being a friend of the family and I had to work. My family member was watching my kids and she was visiting and I didn’t know about it. Some people need to remind themselves that you can’t fix everything and you can't control everything and I am one of those people.
I had to drop my son off to school and he had a complete meltdown. Crying about having to go to that relatives house and seeing that other child because that other child would make him do things and threaten him. I confronted the relative and lets just say it came down to the point where I snapped. I didn't understand how someone could watch someone else's kids and their own and not pay attention. All these bad things happened to my kid and no one knew about it. They just told them to go play and ignored all the warning signs.
It got to the point where my son was not my son anymore. He had gone into a depression I quit my job and disowned that family member for about a year.I took him to a children's psychiatrist. I will admit that this was hard for me because as a mom it is hard to look at a professional and say ‘help me’. I am not sure if it’s a pride thing or the fear of them thinking I can’t take care of my own child. I did tell her that I need her help because I am not a professional and he is my first child, so this is all a new experience even though he was six years old.
I’ll be honest, it took a lot to untrain him of those bad habits that this experience caused and sometimes he still has little outburst. He is now 8 years old and is home schooled. He is a very impressionable young child and he will do anything for approval from his peers. Now I have him attending Abeka Academy Online. It is a Christian online school, we do the DVD version and it is the best thing that I have ever done for him. He has never had better grades and our relationship is a lot better than it used to be.
Sometimes he doesn’t like me because I am his teacher too but he and I haven’t been this close sense all of that stuff went down. I honestly would recommend homeschooling to anyone having similar issues. I had issues with him learning bad things and bringing it home, I have issues with other kids making him say bad things were happening that were not happening just because it was the ‘in things to happen’. I love my kids and I would do anything for them.
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